I am a little late on this, but I better say something before it is too late to mention Holiday cards.

Yep, I am offering to send a Holiday Card to anyone who wants one. It is not much, just a card, but I know some people really like to receive things during the holidays and what better way to do it than mention it to those who read or comment. It does not matter where you live, whether within the US or outside, I will sent you one. All you do is send me an email at nile AT blondish DOT net or use my contact form here.

I plan to not send any cards out later than December 21st (I mentioned December 20th on my LiveJournal blog, but that is a Sunday…oops), so I guess that will have to be the last day to accept requests. If you wish to exchange cards, please mention that in your email so I can include my address. Otherwise, exchanging is not necessarily a requirement.

When I was married, it was like all my single friends avoided me. I made myself available at times, but I guess taking about my son or my ex husband put a wedge. However, even though I am single now, my friends who are married, are the same.

It is quite confusing. Even being in a relationship with my boyfriend, some of my single friends I have met out here in Centralia have just faded into the background. It is kind of annoying since we hung out on the weekends.

Being in a relationship does not necessarily mean a person is on the backburner. It is a time to learn how to be a better friend. Of course, with being a mother, it might be hard to not involve talk about children. I have found it a touchy spot, and made sure my family life more brief and ask about my friend more. However, for me it is a challenge. Sometimes it is disheartening to not hear from one of my best friends for some time. I have felt a bit betrayed, but in the time I do get to talk, I try to ask about my friends.

I know from other mothers that this has been a big issue. It sucks when you think you are losing a friend. You might even think you were being used. However, it is not. Your friend is just unsure to approach the situation. Being single and being married or in a deep relationship is different. Even being married or deep in a relationship with children is much more of a difference then just being married or in a relationship.

What are your thoughts if you are single and have friends who are married? – married and have single friends…?

So the boyfriend and I finally got the chance to go out to the movies. We went to see Paranormal Activity. By the way, it was not scary and I thought it sucked. My boyfriend said the movie had an okay plot, but overall, it sucked. And yes, they tried to imitate the Blair Witch Project documentary angle, which was FAIL in my opinion. (To me, the Blair Witch Project was not scary.)

Anyway, the movie theater was packed, which we usually catch thethe movies that have a sparse crowd, but I felt like I was back in the city again where people actually do things. Well, with the crowd came the smooching teens, and cell phones. That is not what bothered me. What did was the constant traffic during the movie. I am wondering if people in Centralia have bladder problems. People were up and walking around like they drank several gallons of- beer, tea, soda or whatever beverage you want to insert here. It got so annoying that my boyfriend said out loud.

“How many times do you have to go to the bathroom during a movie!”

I wanted to laugh. I really did, but I elbowed him, and sent him a half-glare/ half-apology for elbowing. I was just as annoyed. When I was younger, I was told to try to go to the bathroom before leaving home. Public restrooms are frightfully dirty and you can get STDs from sitting on the comode. That should be enough to deter people.

Maybe they should put before the movie starts, since the previews take almost 10 minutes- to put a note up for people to kindly try to take a bathroom break before the movie.

What are your movie peeves?

Title for my car

Just short of three years, I finally paid off my car. It was not easy. Before my Impala, I owned several cheap cars, but nothing as good as what I have now. I use to own a 1991 Chevy Geo Metro, a 1989 Chevy Celebrity (was given to ex-husband), and a 1997 Chevy Geo Metro. All of which have either been sold or given away. My first car, the 1991 Chevy Geo Metro was actually given to me by my parents, so it never felt like an accomplishment. It feels good to at least own something to my name, that I paid for, and not have to pay for it anymore.

It has not been very easy since my divorce. After almost being married 5 years, it was hard to adjust. It was hard enough to financially support myself at first. However, I am hoping with things like this, things go a lot better. I can show my son my own accomplishments and instill the lessons I have learned so he can be prepared when it comes time for him to be a responsible adult.

Although I feel accomplished, I am still humbled. I am reminded of when I was younger and it was hard to afford anything. My own father worked hard and today it has paid off for him. I strive to do that as I want him to be proud even though I am an adult and a mother myself now. I know he already is, but in doing so returns the favor he did in teaching me the value of responsibility.

Do you have any accomplishments you are really proud of?